tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post1852302954628021732..comments2024-02-17T19:36:03.936+00:00Comments on male femme: Eight Questions.Jonathanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17147186679298442560noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-37279116511005548892015-03-07T08:07:50.245+00:002015-03-07T08:07:50.245+00:00You're probably right, Nicky. Though I've ...You're probably right, Nicky. Though I've never found an accessible course over here anyway :/Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147186679298442560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-31848277200393246352015-03-02T17:12:24.891+00:002015-03-02T17:12:24.891+00:00Based on what your level of knowledge and on my ex...Based on what your level of knowledge and on my experience I would not recommend enrolling in a university gender studies course unless it's an advanced seminar that is very specific to something you're particularly interested. I went to one day of an upper-division undergraduate course on general gender and sexuality studies in a sociology department and I felt a native English speaker in a course for people studying it as a second language.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-48467747634228698972014-08-25T08:49:13.573+01:002014-08-25T08:49:13.573+01:00The updated version of this post, complete with ph...The updated version of this post, complete with photo, has now been moved across <a href="http://yatgb.blogspot.co.uk/p/our-different-journey.html" rel="nofollow">here</a>. The main alteration was in my answer to the <em>Coming Out</em> question which I revised as follows:<br /><br /><em>Yes and no. I was deeply in the closet for a long time, albeit more in my head than in reality – in that, although a lot of my friends knew, and I knew they knew, and they knew I knew (etc), it wasn’t something I wanted to talk about at all. So I was in the closet with the door open as it were. (Think of a young child with their eyes tightly closed and their fingers in their ears, going “you can’t see me, you can’t see me”.) That’s not because I felt any shame or guilt – I never really have – it’s due more to an almost pathological dislike of being laughed at. (If you want me to blow up in your face, that’s the way to do it.)<br /><br />Nowadays, with family and older friends… well… I did think the silence was mutual: that we never talked about it because to do so might change something between us somehow. However, I actually came out to my mother a few months ago and she said she’d had no idea. My sister (who followed two days later) had some idea but nothing exactly clear either. (Bizarre! I’d thought the evidence was both blatant and conclusive – but seemingly not.) Anyway, they were both supportive, and interested (reading my blog from start to finish), and not at all judgmental The things we worry about, eh? And, most important of all, they didn’t laugh.<br /><br />As for friends, I’m still working on the “mutual silence” basis. I don’t hide anything online (for instance, everything is visible in my Facebook account, and this post is under my own name), so it’s very possible for people to find out, either inadvertently or deliberately (should they go looking). Other than that, I’m not intending to come out publicly – in the village, that is. You don’t know how people will react and, given that “badly” is one possibility and I don’t live by myself, it can’t just be my decision. In any case, it’s not something I feel any particular need to do right now.</em><br /><br />If I was writing it again, I'd have to change <em>The Way Forward</em> as well – in particular, regarding “Hopes (otherwise)”, my sister died last October – but I'll leave the rest as it is: as a personal reflection in a certain time and place, rather than a definitive historical account.Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147186679298442560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-57148265544547439142012-11-17T09:27:02.404+00:002012-11-17T09:27:02.404+00:00Further to which, Lynn's own set of answers ca...Further to which, Lynn's own set of answers can now be read <a href="http://yatgb.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/im-on-mission-in-destination-unknown.html" rel="nofollow">here</a>.Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147186679298442560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-14137633363460825932012-05-08T21:55:16.485+01:002012-05-08T21:55:16.485+01:00Hi Rhiannon, Hi Tanya
Glad you liked it :)
I loo...Hi Rhiannon, Hi Tanya<br /><br />Glad you liked it :)<br /><br />I look forward to reading other people's.Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147186679298442560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-515659994652830912012-05-06T14:54:01.142+01:002012-05-06T14:54:01.142+01:00Thanks, I've enjoyed reading it too.Thanks, I've enjoyed reading it too.Tanya Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07638951592050595637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-39891513414270010612012-05-06T11:19:03.427+01:002012-05-06T11:19:03.427+01:00That was really insightful - thank you!That was really insightful - thank you!Rhiannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08507451233056626108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-3139981133968964202012-05-05T14:37:42.849+01:002012-05-05T14:37:42.849+01:00Thanks Lynn. How's yours coming along? :)Thanks Lynn. How's yours coming along? :)Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147186679298442560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-53598130368020025472012-05-03T21:26:36.078+01:002012-05-03T21:26:36.078+01:00I did enjoy reading that. I hope the rest of the f...I did enjoy reading that. I hope the rest of the folk who answer provide such an interesting list.Lynn Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876715474502367377noreply@blogger.com