tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post5917941475774457210..comments2024-02-17T19:36:03.936+00:00Comments on male femme: Creepy Behaviour.Jonathanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17147186679298442560noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-70722366082872992822017-04-09T15:42:59.399+01:002017-04-09T15:42:59.399+01:00Hi Kate. Thanks for the comment :)
Yes, fear and ...Hi Kate. Thanks for the comment :)<br /><br />Yes, fear and anxiety have affected my life considerably too. And it's interesting you mention aspies. There does seem to be an above average incidence of autism in the trans community. Personally, I always score quite highly on internet autism spectrum tests. I just took <a href="http://mindchecker.channel4.com/test-autism.html" rel="nofollow">another one</a> and, as usual, finished “above the clinical threshold”. But whether that's because I belong there or just have unrelated poor social skills, I'm not sure :/Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147186679298442560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-22194847353957481682017-04-03T00:35:27.489+01:002017-04-03T00:35:27.489+01:00Sounds a bit like me, doing / saying things that a...Sounds a bit like me, doing / saying things that are socially awkward. My father was proud to be a "people watcher". He'd park himself on a lawn chair at campgrounds or by the pool after a swim, and just enjoy watching other people.<br /><br />It's only after decades of ruined friendships, awkward encounters which typically leave me feeling embarrassed for long after, that I've finally realized I'm an aspie.<br /><br />I've actually seen a psychologist, and he agrees with my self-assessment. I firmly believe my father was an aspie as well. There's a full spectrum, he managed to have a very full life with 40 years of marriage and a large family. But he was not a very interactive father. He didn't play with us, roughhouse, hug, kiss, hold hands, or even throw a ball in the backyard. He was very much an introvert. He had a small group of friends which every so often he'd offend by saying something awkward.<br /><br />Most aspies are introverted, but there are some extroverted aspies.<br /><br />I'm dealing with a lot of gender identity issues (something I think a lot of aspies also deal with), and one thing that's keeping me from taking things further in any direction is the fear and anxiety about other's reactions.<br /><br />As I mentioned, I have a large family, 7 siblings, more than 15 niblings, one nephew recently married. I dread seeing their reaction if they saw me as I'd like to be. That said, I deeply suspect one of my nephews is beginning to come out of the closet. The family at large is highly conservative, as in "traditional" values.<br /><br />I can only imagine that if I were an extrovert, I'd be very much rocking a look similar to David Bowie, at least one of his very many personas. I'd be more than happy to put the "real me" out there. But while it sounds like the immediate anxiety that prevents me, it's also the anxiety about the long-term anxiety. I know myself well enough to know that I mull over things longer than I should. Just getting out there could easily result in an awkward encounter that would likely haunt me for years. That's unfortunately how I deal with things. Part of this is having a very vivid visual memory, I cannot forget the past.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17506786596382574080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-8749385799466480102017-03-29T16:51:20.578+01:002017-03-29T16:51:20.578+01:00Yes, sometimes people just automatically assume yo...Yes, sometimes people just automatically assume you're hitting on them. And they'd probably be right with most guys in most instances. I'm not sure there's any way round that really :/Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147186679298442560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-665598552477308153.post-1127296862433904932017-03-28T08:27:43.490+01:002017-03-28T08:27:43.490+01:00Ouch. I feel your pain on the social whoops. It...Ouch. I feel your pain on the social whoops. It's a bit of a minefield isn't it?<br /><br />I don't know if it's the same, but complements can be tricky too. Asking things like 'have you had your hair done?' or 'looking very sharp today'; have (seemingly) been well received by colleagues.<br /><br />You know there's a but coming, right? :-) I'd been talking to a friend at work, who was sporting a rather elegant cowl neck top. As we parted, i said "Fab top, BTW" and that was not well received at all :-/ I feel bad for making her feel awkward. Lynn Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876715474502367377noreply@blogger.com